To Recapitulate the Epicness that was 2014

I spent the full year working at retreats with the most Epic souls imaginable. It was an adventure and ride of a lifetime and what an epic and wild ride it was! I will forever carry this experience with me in my heart and soul.

I met and worked with close to 1K new amazing women, and as a result I now have a life that is overflowing with a tribe that adds light, love, excitement, adventures, peace, laughter, radiance, vibrancy, enlightenment, endless support, positivity, and joy to my life beyond my wildest dreams!

I looked my fear right in the face, and owned it like a BOSS – I left my corporate job – The job that was safe, comfy, lucrative as all can be, and followed my heart and dreams to give my light and love to the world full time, to build my empire, to be fierce, fearless, and free, and to help others create lives that they absolutely love living, where they chase and actualize their dreams, and where they pinch themselves because they can’t even believe it’s real.

I’ve been to Florida -my souls home, my heart, my haven, my serenity, my space of endless flow of creation, innovation, relaxation, adventure, and cheek hurting fun – more times in 2014 than I have in total if you cumulated all of the trips that I’ve made there in all of my life. (Other than when I did an internship there in 2003 and lived there for an epic 6 months of my life – one of the best times of life, until now. Now blows every other moment in time of my life out of the water, and is above and beyond what I ever thought was possible.)

This is the happiest and healthiest that I have ever been in my entire life. I am fully immersed in my heart space, feeling endlessly blessed with an overwhelming abundance of peace, light, love, epic souls, adventures, laughter, and feeling alive beyond what I ever even imagined to be possible!

Towards the end of the year, I did something that most people thought was crazy, and I left an opportunity of a lifetime that most people would die to have – I decided that I needed to give every ounce of my heart, soul, and being to my business – EpicSexyYou – No side projects, no helping someone else feed their vision and their dream, no guilt around spending time and energy on MY vision and MY dream, 150% full throttle to giving my light and love to the world!

I have unlocked what it is to live a life that I LOVE living, and how to become a me that I have always dreamed of being. I am truly the woman that I always wanted to be – Inside AND out. I look the best I have ever looked in my life, and for the first time EVER in my life I FEEL SEXY in my own skin every moment of every day from the inside out and the outside in.   I am healthy, I treat my body like the temple it is, I am connected to my inner goddess at all times, and I listen to and honor my mind, body, heart, and soul.

As I have unlocked the secrets to doing all these things I have continued to share them with the world so that others can be immersed in the magic that is possible as we create lives we love living and versions of us that we love being!

I learned to focus on the what – my vision, my dream, how I wanted to feel and be – and then surrendered to the How – the how changes, and if you are too busy focusing on controlling the how instead of allowing it, you will miss all of the magic that life has to offer.

I took risks. I took actions. I made changes.

I lost connections with friends that I thought would be in my life forever (who knows what the future holds, if and when they ever decide to come back I will be here with an open heart and lots of light and love).

I have mended relationships and started to rebuild with those that were lost along the way.

I ended a relationship with someone who was “perfect on paper” yet there was “something missing” – aka an epic sexy want to rip your clothes off attraction, and although we could have lived “happily enough every after”, I would have been settling for a life of mediocrity which is the furthest thing from what I stand for.

The biggest blessing this year is the accountably that this new path provides. The fact that I work with others to create lives they love living, to push their limits, to challenge old beliefs that no longer serve them, to call BS on the excuses that hold them back from the very things they want most in life, to be patient and loving and kind, to honor their journey and their own divine time, to allow others to grow at their pace – It delivers the most epic blessing and gift imaginable, which is the accountability for me to BE it. The LEAD it. To DO it. ALL of it. And when you DO that…. I can’t even describe the magic that the universe delivers.

This year – I found my voice. I connected with my soul. I learned how to say no. I learned how to put myself first. I became decisive. I connected with my intuition. I became my best friend. I became fierce, fearless, and free. I am unstoppable. I released the desire to control – myself, things, circumstances, events, and others. I AM FREE. I found my strength in allowing space for vulnerability. I began a journey of opening myself back up to the endless depths of a madly deeply kind of love and of allowing and honoring the imperfections of others – to love them exactly as they are, to allow them their space for their own journey, and to realize that what they do and / or don’t do has nothing to do with me. I found my foundation of love within me, and no longer seek validation externally.

Pinch… yes… this is my life… and 2014 was just the beginning of the most Epic Adventure… holy shit… 2015… here we come!!!! It’s going to be hands down the most EPIC year so far, and I know that in one year I will not even be able to recognize my life as I know it today!

In 2015 – I want to feel even more – Alive, Free, Blissful, Joyful, Connected to myself, Connected to others, soul connections, madly deeply in love with life, with myself, and with others, I want to experience new experiences, I want to grow, I want to be challenged, I want to have breakthroughs, endless adventures, and immersed in divine light and love. I want to find more kindred spirits and divine souls that I will unite with as we make this world a brighter place in sharing out light and love with the world. I want to be fully immersed in my heart space and in the flow. I want to create and innovate from a space of giving, loving, serving, and let that be the fuel for growing my business and my tribe. And as I move through every single day of 2015, this is exactly what I will focus on. Not on knocking to dos off a list, or hitting target #s in my business, but to FEEL more of what I desire to feel. To LIVE. To be free. To PLAY. To Thrive. And as long as I am FEELING these things, I surrender myself to the how and will let the universe works it’s magic! 🙂


I encourage you all to look back and explore your 2014 – To see all that you have done, all of your growth, your progress, your adventures, your blessings, your gifts, etc. And then think about 2015 – How do you want to FEEL when on this very day next year in 2015. Then go chase those feelings!

Sending endless light and love to each of you Epic Sexy Souls – And my promise to you for the new year is to continue to give you everything I’ve got – Every ounce of my soul, my heart, my epiphanies, my revelations – To help you navigate your own journey and to find your own “pinch me I’m dreaming” life as quickly as possible so that you can experience all of the magic that this life has to offer!!! That is my mission and my promise!




I am writing this two days before the beginning of the New Years Day cleanse whilst indulging in my favorite chocolate sorbet, a ritual that seems to be quite common prior to cleansing – a bingeing farewell…. Oh boy… here we go already – the brain and resistance! !

Here is the low down on the cleanse…


First off, its important to ask yourself – Why am I cleansing?

My answer – To launch myself into 2015 with a badass challenge that will allow me to explore what happens when you take away one of the longest standing habits of all man kind – Chewing… For me it is about mind domination, and staring resistance in the face and owning it like it’s my bitch! Showing it who is BOSS. ME. I am the BOSS. Consciously, and intentionally studying the voices in the mind that are behind the fear and resistance to change, and taking the power away from them, so that they know that I mean business and that 2015 belongs to me, to my heart, my soul, my deepest desires, and making my dreams come true once and for all, and for them to know that I will NOT let anything get in the way of that, not even my own voices of fear and resistance that reside within! The more you confront them, the less power they have. They become a mere whisper as opposed to a loud, barking, crazy mad dog, foaming at the mouth at the slightest appearance and or though of change! For me it is also about reframing my relationship and association with food. Food is FUEL, period.

Additionally – There are some speculated physical benefits that a cleanse can offer the body. It can restore the body to its optimal levels for peak performance, it has been said that it cleanses the body of toxins, and rids the system of all the junk. It allows for mental focus and intense clarity, and during a cleanse you may feel revitalized, energized, rejuvenated, recharged, and renewed! Also, in giving your digestive system a break, you allow your pipes time to actually clear out and cleanse so that you can restore your system to optimal digestive performance! Cleansing gives the adrenals time away from stimulants (coffee,/alcohol alcohol, refined foods, sugar) that wreak havoc and cause adrenal fatigue. Healthy adrenals allow the mind and body to cope with everyday stress without getting overwhelmed.

All of that being said… I am going to do a cleanse that is of the following detailed nature…. And I invite you to explore your WHY first and foremost and then build a cleanse around YOUR why, one that is aligned with YOUR desires and needs, so that you can give your mind, body, and soul what it is craving. (Also, after my detailed cleanse, I have listed what a varied option is so as to give you an idea of different variations that are possible)


My Cleanse

14 days

First 7 days – Water, and Veggies. All drinks are made in a blender or a juicer – No Chewing. No Caffeine. No Sugar (no fruit, no gum, no mints, etc. even if they are sugar-free – nada, zip, zilch) Literally – Nothing other than water, and veggie drinks for 7 days straight. i.e. Vitamix – through a bunch of miscellaneous veggies in – beets, kale, spinach, mushrooms, carrots, etc – Add water – Blend – Drink.

7 days of no caffeine and no sugar – gives my adrenals a break! 🙂

Second 7 Days – Add fruit. Nothing else changes. Still no chewing.

There is no limit to the amount of food that I can eat/drink. I will listen to the body and give it the nutrients it is craving, and only indulge when I am hungry.


Alternative option as an example 

14 days

First 7 days – Water. Veggies. Nuts. All Raw. But can eat it however your little heart desires! Everything else is the same – No Caffeine. No Sugar (no fruit, no gum, no mints, etc. even if they are sugar-free – nada, zip, zilch) Literally – Nothing other than water, veggies and nuts for 7 days straight.  

7 days of no caffeine and no sugar – gives your adrenals a break! 🙂

Second 7 Days – Add fruit. Nothing else changes

There is no limit to the amount of food that you can eat/drink. Listen to the body and give it the nutrients it is craving, and only indulge when you are hungry. Play with the idea of food being FUEL, intended to keep you at optimal peak operating performance – Mind, body, and soul! 🙂


Preparation – 

BE PREPARED!  AHEAD OF TIME!!!  Tomorrow, the day before the cleanse – I will be going to the store and getting veggies galore!!!!  I already have an idea of the types of veggies that I will be blending – beets, carrots, kale, mushrooms, spinach, etc.  So I will be loading up on those, and I will then use my Vitamix and blend enough to last me 2-3 days to get this party started! I will store them in air tight containers, and put them in my fridge, and then every time I leave the house I will bring one or two with me!  And if you work outside of the house, you can bring everything with you!  Pack it up, make a picnic!  You can store the food in your companies fridge, or if they don’t have one then pick up a cooler at the store!  Preparing AHEAD of time is a HUGE part of being able to follow through and get your cleanse on!  You can either find an excuse, or you can find a path to success.  If you find yourself coming up with a lot of excuses as to why you won’t be able to start on New Years day, then ask yourself – Where else might this pattern of excuses and resistance be playing into my life?  And… When am I going to finally stare resistance dead in the eyes and let it know who’s the boss?!  


Cleanse for the Mind, Body, and /or Soul…

Cleansing can be done for more than just the body…. For some people it may be that you are craving the need to cleanse your closet – to organize and purge.  For others, it may be the craving and need to cleanse your office – to organize and purge all the piles and stacks so that you can have clarity and focus, distraction free as you build your wealth and your empire.  It is all about honoring your body, mind, and soul, and doing what YOU feel is best for YOU.  Giving yourself what you need to grow, learn, explore, restore, and thrive. 


Feel free to create your own version of a cleanse and let us know what yours is –  let’s share ideas, recipes, tips, tricks, and anything else that you come across that is beneficial! Use this crew as a support system, when you need to vent, when you need help, when you want to celebrate your epic success, when you need accountability to push you through to the finish line, etc.  We are a community of Epic Sexy Badasses getting our Sexy Swag of a Cleanse on – Lets do this!!!  🙂




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Resistance is a Bitch.

Resistance. I see it ALL THE TIME. And I bump into it frequently myself. I am not going to lie to you or sugar coat it… It’s a real bitch. I have seen so many individuals (and personally experienced on a bazillion of occasions myself) where when we don’t actually say YES to something, in the very heat of the moment when we are moved to say yes, if we do not fully commit to it right then and there – mind, body, soul, verbally out loud to another human being, lock it in, schedule it, pay for it, and/or whatever else is necessary to be ALL IN – If we don’t say YES to the thing that we KNOW will rock our world and sustainably alter it FOREVER, then we will be doomed to the hamster wheel of hell where we feel moved to do something yet we come up with a million and 5 reasons to not do it right now, we promise ourselves we will get to it later, and tomorrow will be a better time to put in the work to create a life that we love living. (You know, I mean because we are sooooo busy… living a life that is mediocre, and safe, predictable, over planned, and comfortable…) The array of excuses come fast and furious – Like…. – “That is a lot of money” (I mean… technically I have the money … but…. I was saving it for an emergency… or for retirement… or for in case a tree falls on my house… or if I am walking across the street and get hit by a truck…..) Or maybe your go to excuse is – “I don’t have time for that” (followed by engaging in a slue of mindless time wasting activities that we are not even consciously aware that we are doing). Or, maybe you have a demanding career and you “can’t take the time off work.” And the voice inside you is all “ Trust me, the world will fall apart if I am not there to do my job”. (I was there once upon a time – I went 4 years of not a single day where I didn’t do work. And then I found myself in burnout city. No relationship. Lots of drinking and numbing. Resentful as all can be. Lots of losing my shit. Lots of mental breakdowns. I was a real gem to be around, let me tell you. It’s SUPER fun. Good luck with that!) Or, here’s a good one – “I am not 100% sure that that is THE thing I have been looking for… I’m like 99% sure…. But NOT 100% FOR SURE… sooooo I’ll keep looking” (waiting rather, endlessly for that thing, that perfect thing, the RIGHT thing, the holy grail, the magic bullet, the brick upside our head… the thing that never comes…. And we are STUCK in a life of settling for mediocrity!)


Dabbling is a Son of a Bitch.

Another interesting pattern we engage in as humans is that we like to dabble. Put one foot in the water. See how it feels before we jump in. Or sometimes we just sit on the side of the metaphorical pool and never even get in the damn pool to swim, play, float, and experience what life has to offer.


When we do not say YES to ourselves, especially in the moments where our intuition is SCREAMING at us… When we aren’t fully committed to something and say YES, I’m ALL IN, especially in the heat of the moment where we have just enough courage to say yes, (which is a VERY small window of time before our excuses come in to take over and hold us back from epic heights, heights higher than you can even fathom and imagine at this very moment) what inevitably happens, is that we stay stuck in our old ways. The same ways that got us stuck in this steaming pile of cow poop of mediocrity in the first place….


And then if you do have your foot dipped in the metaphorical pool, but you are not in the pool with full immersion just yet – When a gust of wind comes by (i.e. any single tiny obstacle), then when things get tough, you start to use the lack of commitment as an opportunity to not move forward – One toe in the water, thinking “oh man look how much fun everyone is having swimming with the dolphins” (my metaphorical pool has dolphins, feel free to create your own euphoric pool), “man I should TOTALLY jump in!” “OK guys, I’m going to do it, I am coming in…” (insert the slightest hesitation) and then oh wait, gust of wind… and the window of opportunity is GONE… in a split second, just like that… All of a sudden thinking to oursleves “man it’s going to be sooo cold in there”… “I can always come back another day, when it’s warmer”…. The moment is lost, everyone else has an experience of a lifetime, living it up, loving on the dolphins… taking an underwater ride with flipper, and you are outside the pool… warm… comfortable… MISSING OUT, yet masterfully convincing yourself that it’s totally OK to not be doing the one thing that has been your childhood dream since you can remember, all because of one little gust of wind!


A more practical example may be an experience that you have been dying to do – Maybe it’s to take an improv class or to go on a particular trip, or to start your own journey of self discovery by seeing a therapist, a life coach, a healer, a sprit guide, or maybe you’ve always wanted to learn Spanish, or go to Paris…. (insert your list of things here)… and then your brain creates an imaginary gust of wind, and you are in the hamster wheel of hell of mediocrity – convinced you will get out of it one of these days magically, without having to do any work or experience any discomfort. Maybe they will make a magic pill one of these days that you can take and it will change your life in an instant.


OR… maybe you can try something different for once. Maybe you can say YES to yourself, and make this year a year where you stop dreaming of an epic existence and you actually start creating one through small tiny action steps, peppered with some bold moves, and screw the voice in your head that has an abundance of excuses. Just DO “IT”That thing that your intuition says to do. The thing that is terrifying to think about doing, yet you KNOW is going to be THE thing that you need to grow, expand, and create an epic existence! What are you waiting for?! Stop waiting! Knock it off! You are smarter than this!

Set yourself up for success.  Give yourself the best chance at moving incrementally towards everything you dream of so that you can have no regrets.  Give everything you’ve got so that you never look back and wonder… “what if…”


There is a quote in Steven Pressfield’s book Do the Work that discusses just how common resistance is and how it operates:

“Rule of thumb:  The more important a call to action is to our soul’s evolution, the more resistance we will feel toward pursuing it.”


It’s normal in the beginning of an epic journey to have lots of gusts of wind, and to be faced with typical resistance blocks daily that really stop you in your tracks, that leave you feeling helpless, and prevent you from feeling as if you are overcoming your blocks and moving closer to your ideal life at the pace that you would like.  Know these blocks are coming, so that they aren’t such a shock to the system when you experience them. JUMP IN!   (Sure, the water is cold, jump in anyways! And after you’ve been in it for a few seconds, or hell maybe even a few minutes, you acclimate!) Commit to yourself! Get in the pool! Don’t give up on yourself or the process at the beginning of your journey when what you are experiencing is normal and merely your lifetimes worth of programming and default settings that are holding you back from your ideal self.  Everyone who enters into their own self mastery journey experience resistance at the beginning, and even throughout the journey, and it is important to know that it is on the horizon.


There is a quote by W.H. Murray that talks about the resistance you will face when you are on the journey to greatness and you have not yet given yourself the gift of fully committing to the process:


“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.  Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation) there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.  A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.  I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:  ‘Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it.  Boldness has genius, power and magic in it’. Begin it now.”


Figure out a way to set yourself up for success and get creative to commit fully to the process upfront, so that you can give yourself full permission to actually commit to the journey abundantly, be fully engaged to it, and be gentle with yourself as you encounter the typical blocks that come up along the way.  Committing upfront stops the inevitable chatter that will happen in the brain. It stops the bully dead in it’s tracks – That bully inside you who judges your every move, and who tells you why bother, who says this isn’t working, etc. – The sheer act of committing upfront takes power from the bully and the worrier voice.  The good news is that it does get easier as you progress along your journey, and even just 3 months from now you will be able to see the progress and benefits much more clearly.  The process of reprogramming takes a lot of work, and I am not going to lie, it is hard especially in the beginning.  No matter what route you take to make the change you will face resistance from yourself, which is totally normal.  Through guidance, time, consistency, and repetition you will overcome the blocks that are in your way.


Make sure that you are setting yourself up for success to achieve the dreams that you have so that you can create and live the life that you want to live. Commit fully to the process.  


You may be thinking – OK, OK, I hear you, but – HOW do I get the journey started? What is the first step? Come on now… You know I’ve got you!! J

Step one – Grab a piece of paper and something to write with. Put that to the side, I’ll let you know when you need it. Take a moment to sit in silence. Breathe deep. Relax. Start to imagine how you would like life to be different? How you would like your life to look different. Don’t write anything just yet, just sit with it, vision it, be with it, feel it. Imagine your ideal life. This is a magic wand scenario – it doesn’t matter if you even think it is possible (bc let’s be real it isn’t possible unless you commit to yourself and start making some changes) – For now just tap into that Disney magic imagination inside of you and vision a life that you absolutely LOVE living! Sit with it… be with it… vision… take a few minutes to just create – like painting your new life on a blank canvas in your mind.


When you are ready… Write down what came up in your vision –

How does your vision FEEL different than how your current life feels today?

What are the things that are abundantly present in your vision that are missing from your life today?

Who are the new people that show up in your vision that aren’t present today? And/Or who are the people that are missing from your vision, that are in your life today?

What are the 5 most predominant feelings that you would experience every single day if your vision was in fact a reality?


Now…Continue to explore and write…

What are 10 things that you could do to bring more of those 5 predominant feelings into your life today?

From your heart space, from your intuition, from your gut… what is the single most important thing that you know you need to do that will make the most epic impact in your life and boldly change the trajectory or your life sustainably forever? What is the one thing that when you do that ONE thing, that it will break the hamster wheel of hell, of being stuck in mediocrity, and break you free from the groundhog day of insanity? Insanity – Doing the same thing over and over and expecting new results…. What is the bold new thing that you can do NOW, right now, this very moment, to say YES to YOU and your intuition and desires and dreams, that will stretch you out of your comfort zone, and allow you to do things DIFFERENT so that this year will be a year where you’ll look back and say, “that was THE year that changed it all!”?

***Warning – Ignore the bully/worrier voice and all of the excuses that will MOST DEF come up and try to keep you stuck. Yes, the water is cold. Ignore the wind. It’s all trying to keep you comfortable. Comfort means nothing changes. Comfort means that everything will be the EXACT same, ALWAYS. If you don’t make a change, take a chance, risk, step outside of your comfort zone, say YES to you, live in your heart space where your gut and intuition guide you… then where you are in life right now at this very moment – in love, at work, and in play – is exactly where you will always be. The things you yearn for will be just that – yearnings. The visions you just dreamt of, will stay as mere visions. The pain you feel today will be ever present. You will stay stuck until something changes. YOU are the only one who has the power to make the change.


What are you going to do different?


What are you going to say YES to?


What is your bold move that you will do to become a fierce, fearless, unstoppable you?


Now – share that ONE THING with 3 friends RIGHT NOW. Literally, RIGHT NOW. Text them. (I know, I know, the excuses are already coming fast and furious aren’t they. See, I told you this would happen!!! I am not making this stuff up! The resistance set in for you the second you read that you had to actually DO something different, and to do it IMMEDIATELY – Action, and immediacy, the most epic partners in crime! Oh, how the voice throws a temper tantrum fit – “What does she mean right now? I mean obviously I can do it later today, I’m super busy right now, and this article was a lot longer than I thought it would be, and ahhhhhhhh that is uncomfortable to have to tell people what I am going to do because then I would have to actually DO IT!”…)


YOU create your life. Your choices define you. Action is the key to creating and living a life you LOVE living. DO IT NOW. Like RIGHT NOW. Like THIS VERY SECOND. You can MF me all day long. Just give yourself the best gift imaginable and send text messages to your 3 people of 1. What you are going to do different. And 2. How they can help hold you accountable to that thing… One day you will thank me… but that day may take a while because there is a bumpy ride ahead, so I wont hold my breath on the receiving of thanks. Buckle up! Enjoy the journey ahead!!!


And if you are really feeling BOLD… Share with usWhat is your one thing? Do something different right this very second and proclaim your one thing to the world! Change your life forever!


As always sending you light and love, along with vibes of epic adventures, growth, progress, strength, courage, boldness, epicocity (epic-velocity), and a life that you absolutely love living, where you pinch yourself because you can’t even believe it’s real!



Hello there you EPIC SEXY SOUL!!!!! 


LOVE THIS!!! Just received an email from Danielle LaPorte with:

“Michael Franti — for a prayer:

     Here’s what my mama said
     Do it for the love, not for the money
     Not for the guns and not for the honeys
     Do it ‘cause it makes you feel alive
     Like the way we rockin’ on Saturday night
     Do it for the love of it, do it for the smell of it
     Do it for the joy and the taste and the hell of it
     Do it ‘cause you love it and it makes no sense
     Not yens or euros or dollars or cents”

I could not agree with this more!!  YES YES YES!! Do it all to to FEEL ALIVE! Do it all for the JOY! Just do what FEEDS YOUR SOUL, and everything else falls into place!!! Story of my life!!

I know, I know, WAY easier said then done, but I can assure you, as I am LIVING PROOF, that it IS possible, that you CAN break free from the fear that holds you back from your wildest dreams, that you CAN create a life that you absolutely LOVE living, filled with endless adventures, feeling ALIVE every single day, with an overwhelming abundance of things to be grateful for surrounding you at all times, where you bring the best version of you everywhere you go, where you embrace the unknown, where you approach all “problems” and “challenges” as an exciting opportunity to learn, grow, and focus all of your time and energy strategizing on all the endless possibilities of solutions to solve the complex puzzles that life delivers in just the right time to be the best blessings and gifts that will be precisely what you need for the next step on your journey, AND of course to look and FEEL SEXY while doing it all!

When times get hard – breathe, relax, tap into your heart space and intuition, and trust the journey.  It’s plan for you always trumps your own plan.  The best things in life that happen to us are often times the things that we didn’t see coming.  The hardest times that we face in life are to build strength for us to share our own light with the world, they are necessary for us to become smarter, stronger, and more resilient.  They are a GIFT if you choose to let them be so.  Even the worst things in life can be the very things that help navigate us to the who that we were put here to be so that we can make this world a better place.  

One such guy is one I have recently started following – Louis Howes. He stumbled across my Instagram page and started following me, so I checked his page out and this man is most def an EPIC and BRILLIANT Soul!  Def part of the ESY tribe of individuals who are defying limitations, creating a life they LOVE living, THRIVING all day every day, enjoying endless adventures, and from the looks of things he is looking and feeling sexy in his own skin!  EpicSexyBadass for sure! 🙂

I got an email from Jonathan Fields of the Good Life Project, another EpicSexySoul, with some info and an interview on Lewis Howes that I thought I would share with each of you to get your own daily dose of inspiration!!! Inspiration ahead!!! 🙂 

Lewis Howes is a radiant, towering hulk of a human being. Driven, energized, magnetic and successful. I’ve known Lewis for a number of years now and consider him a good friend.

When he came to me earlier this year to share a dark, incredibly-painful secret from his childhood, I was floored. Did not see it coming. He’d been living with the pain and deep trauma of sexual abuse for decades. At the hands of another man, though he was just a boy.

When he told me, a few months after, that he wanted to “go public” in an effort to help others who’d been through the same thing, I was hesitant.

I didn’t know how people might take it, or mis-attribute any unfounded motivations. But he was determined to make it happen and asking me to help guide the conversation. I knew how important it would be to create a “safe container,” so I said yes.

The conversation that unfolded was incredibly raw, real, vulnerable and powerful on so many levels. He recently shared it with his community, and now I’m sharing it with you.

Check it out here or on iTunes now. – Jonathan Fields.” 


As always… Sending Light, Love, Laughter, Joy, Bliss, Overflowing Abundance, Happiness, Inner Peace, Endless Adventures, some SEXY Swag, and an EPIC Existence your way!!! xoxo, Morgan

Our society has a very interesting paradigm when it comes to “investing” in ourselves. We encourage our high school grads, ages 17-19 to take out massive amounts of debt to go to college right away, at an age where they aren’t even sure of who they are yet, what they want, or where they want life to take them. Yet they are supposed to declare what they will be doing for the rest of their life, and then spend 4-8+ years studying that thing?! To which they may and or may not ever even do that “thing” that they thought they might like to do?

I hear stories all the time of people going all the way through Law School and or Medical School only to find out that once they start DOING that thing that they’ve been studying for 7 to 8+ years, that it wasn’t what they thought it would be and they are left stuck with no idea of what they want to do next. For some, they just stay in it because of all of the time and money already spent and invested in that thing, so they figure “why bother” and then spend the rest of their existence doing something that they don’t even like doing. Imagine all of that TIME and MONEY that they invested, and for what? To find out that they didn’t like that “thing”.

Yet when I first decided to finally quit a job that I spent 40+ hours a week at – that was no longer feeding my soul, and was withering it away slowly but surely every single moment of every single day, since I had found the thing that I felt called to do, the thing that makes me feel more ALIVE, fulfilled, and overwhelmed with a sense of purpose – I was met with SO much societal resistance. The thought of investing my “hard earned savings” to take a “risk” – a leap of faith, and explore this thing that I had uncovered, that I KNEW beyond a shadow of a doubt was THE thing that I was put here to do, and that the time to do it was NOW – was so incredibly foreign according to some kind of agreed upon universal societal standard that people couldn’t even begin to wrap their head around understanding what could possibly be going through my wild and crazy imaginative head.

I had already dipped my toe in, had explored it, had made sure that it was THE thing for me, and yet so many people were absolutely appalled at my decision and or completely worried sick for me (even my own parents), and baffled that I would give up an incredibly lucrative position with an overwhelming abundance of perks and benefits, a position of certainty, and a future that was secure and comfortable for the next 30+ years. Never mind that it was killing me slowly to not be doing the thing that I felt called to do. Never mind that I had saved enough money to get me through the launch of a business and carry me through the time it would take to build my empire. Never mind that I was completely comfortable with MY decision, and that the same uncertainties about the future that everyone else seemed to perceive as “risky” I perceived as an “Epic Adventure” leaving me feeling invigorated, electric, and ALIVE.

The way I look at it, I was investing my money and enrolling in the University of Me. The University of Me, at a time in my life where I knew exactly who I was, who I wanted to be, where I wanted to go, and what I wanted to do – To play, to travel, to learn, to grow, to explore, to experience all that life has to offer, to master my craft, to build an empire, to be free, to be happy, to be ALIVE, to LIVE my life every single day to the fullest, and to use my gifts to help others come alive.

 And yet by some kind of societal standard, this was “insane”. This was “risky”. This was crazy. This was met with a ton of “you can’t be serious”, and “have you really thought about this”, and “why would you blow through your savings like this, this isn’t what savings are for…”, along with an arsenal of fear based objections that started with “but… what if…”.

And here is the thing. I am not saying not to go to school. So if you are already riding that hate train you can slow your roll. I am merely saying, who is anyone else to ever define how YOU spend YOUR money or your time and what YOU deem to be a solid investment? Who is anyone else to define for YOU what YOUR definition is of what your “savings” should be spent on? Do what YOU want. This is YOUR life last time I checked. If I had continued to live my life for everyone else, (which trust me I have spent a LOT of time doing that in this lifetime), I would have continued to stay at a job that no longer served me, which wouldn’t have been doing myself or my employer any favors. I would have continued to ignore my souls desire. I would have continued living a lie. Living a life that was empty and unfulfilling.

Most importantly it’s what I would NOT have been doing – THAT is what makes the biggest difference here. I would NOT have been living my life to the fullest every day. I would not have been doing the one thing that I was put here on this earth to do. I would not be filled with an overwhelming sense of purpose and fulfillment every single day. I would NOT be sharing my light with the world. It would be an injustice to myself and the world had I continued to live a live defined by other’s standards and expectations, instead of standing up and deciding to finally just be me. Unapologetically me

I was watching a movie recently (one of those super sappy love movies that I LOVE to watch by myself and cry like a big baby and I’m always left feeling so much more open to loving full out at the conclusion of said move) and the main characters were both cancer patients with an indefinite time to live. It got me thinking… Why is it that our society encourages us to start living when we are running out of time?

Yet it is totally acceptable to spend 40+ hours a week doing something you don’t love?  To use your minimalist paid time off to LIVE it up and experience life?  Here in the US that could be condensed to 2 short weeks, possibly even scattered throughout the year with mere days and glimpses at a time of experiencing LIFE and feeling ALIVE?

We wait until we are forced to make time matter, to live it up, to experience life and all that it has to offer. Only then, when we are forced to, in the face of loss and impending death of our loved ones or ourselves, do we become fearless, fierce, and free.  Free from the mundane worries and the BS fear tactics that keep us confined to living the same boring day over and over and over for all of our existence.

It’s like there is some kind of societal agreement of an openly and widely accepted life of living in a full-blown state of mediocrity. Being consumed by inconsequential BS.  Allowing others to prioritize what is important to us, to determine how we define things in life, what we should do, what we shouldn’t do, what we can do, what we cant do, how we should spend our time, how we should spend our money, and the endless list of ways goes on and on…

To this – I say NO. No more.  Not a second more of it.  I’m done.

And so, I tell society to take your shoulds and cants and stick them where the sun doesn’t shine.  I will be busy – Loving. Living. Experimenting. Trying.  Failing. Making mistakes. Risking it all. Letting go. Breaking through barriers.  Defying perceived limitations.  Thriving. Feeling ALIVE!

In the words of Taylor Swift – “The haters gonna hate… Shake it off!”  There will always be people who hate on what you are doing.  No matter what it is that you do.  As long as you are living a life concerned by what others think, you will never truly experience what it is to be ALIVE.

Just do YOU.

Would love to hear your thoughts and insights below! 🙂